Haters. I know every single person has at least one. Now cyber bullying is very common, especially in middle and high schoolers. These are a few hard years because so many people focus on fitting in and popularity and negative comments really bring us down at this time. Since people are talking more and more to each other online, cyber bullying is very common. The worst is when people are able to talk to you anonymously because they say things that you know they would never say to your face or even with their name attached to it. Haters come if you do things that they don’t agree with, with jealousy, or for no reason at all.
I read hate comments on youtube videos all of the time. When you check out their account, they don’t have any videos uploaded and they’re not putting themselves out there. You have no sense of who it even is, but a mean person hiding behind their computer screen. This shows a complete lack of self esteem in that person. They are putting down someone who has the courage to put themselves out there while they aren’t doing anything. It could be out of jealousy or just a bad attitude. This goes towards anonymous hatred on social media such as Tumblr. The best way to handle these type of questions are honestly ignoring them and not posting it. If it’s obvious that you came up with a long, elaborate answer on why you’re a great person, they’re not going to stop. Ignore and move on.
There are also haters on the Internet but it’s not anonymous. Even if someone’s name is shown, they might still say stuff they wouldn’t in person. It doesn’t hurt any less either. I would say that you should do the same as you would if this was an anonymous person. It’s just another person hiding behind their laptop. If the bullying gets bad, I would address the bully in person. Don’t fight back with mean comments, that’ll make things worse. Calmly tell them to stop and if they don’t, show that it doesn’t bother you. If it does bother you, tell an adult. You don’t deserve this and they do not deserve the right to use these social media websites.
Lastly, there are haters in person too. These are people that will say things to you in person, usually thinking it’s funny. If it comes unexpected, you might be left with nothing to say back. The answer is not yelling or saying something mean back. They’re probably jealous of you, so if they don’t stop after you ask them to, brush it off. They may have the confidence to say things to you in person, but there is still some that they are missing.
Really, everyone has them. If you can accept the fact that they are there, then you will be better off. Being in denial is not going to get you anywhere. Being aware and obsessing are two different things. Don’t waste your time trying to impress these people. They aren’t worth your time because in the end, haters are gonna hate. Also, don’t be a hater yourself. It’s not funny and it’s not cool. Watch yourself on the Internet. If you are a cyber bully, you should spend your free time doing something off the computer. Twitter and Facebook are not for you. Do things that will build up your confidence whether you are being bullied or are the bully. Self-confidence is so important; focus on things you love and are good at. I wish there was a way to get rid of all haters, but people have their own opinions and in reality, you can’t please everybody. Don’t try to please people that can’t be pleased. Be careful out there, and if you are dealing with haters now, I am sorry and I wish you good luck in handling them.