Category Archives: Real Talk

The Single Life

Have you ever been somewhere with your parents and seen the cutest couple and slightly feel sorry for yourself? That’s my life, like everyday. I really just don’t have any luck with this creatures.

The worst is when they’re interested and then they randomly just stop. Like what did I do wrong? Is it my fault or his fault? I end up wasting the entire day pondering the whole situation. This has happened way too many times for me to believe that it’s their problem.

Also, there are those girls that have a waiting list of guys all ready the second she becomes single. I mean how does this even work? How can a guy fall in love with someone at first sight without even knowing them? These are the type of questions I ask myself. I do a lot of my thinking in the shower for some reason.

The strangest part is that I’ve already thought about my wedding. I know who some people I want to be bridesmaids, where I want it, and I’m pretty sure I want “She’s So High” by Tal Bachman to play at my reception. I think I spend a little too much time thinking.

Boys think I’m weird, ugly, annoying etc but I’m positive one day someone will actually think I’m cool. I still have a little bit of hope.. After misread signals, awkward moments, and a lot of searching, I know there is someone. And hey, if you can’t seem to find a guy, join the club. We can make a group and sit at home, eat ice cream, and watch romantic chick flicks until we cry our eyes out. And if you’re the type of person who has the secret code to discovering the male species, I’ll pay you 10,000 dollars for that.

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Me Without Makeup

I truly love makeup but sometimes it’s good to take a break. I feel as if I don’t need to add too much but I prefer to wear it to school or if I’m getting my picture taken. I did a whole post on being confident with less makeup on a few weeks ago. As for this school year, I’m trying to get a few products that conceal some of my uneven skin tone so that I don’t have to apply a full face of makeup every morning. In the future I will do reviews of the products on my blog.

Really, we’re all human. We have imperfections and insecurities and try to hide them to the best of our ability. By wearing makeup everywhere I go or a nice outfit, it takes the excitement out of them. It makes them ordinary. It’s almost like a new school year. I always get super excited to go back to school in the fall. Then, by spring, I’m ready to be out and enjoy doing nothing.

I dare you to post a picture or even just take a picture of yourself without any makeup products and find at least 5 things that you like. It’s super easy to find only 5 things and that will also help boost self-confidence. And obviously, looks are not everything! I’ve been called ugly plenty of times in my life to realize that appearance doesn’t define who you are.

The Haters

Haters. I know every single person has at least one. Now cyber bullying is very common, especially in middle and high schoolers. These are a few hard years because so many people focus on fitting in and popularity and negative comments really bring us down at this time. Since people are talking more and more to each other online, cyber bullying is very common. The worst is when people are able to talk to you anonymously because they say things that you know they would never say to your face or even with their name attached to it. Haters come if you do things that they don’t agree with, with jealousy, or for no reason at all.

I read hate comments on youtube videos all of the time. When you check out their account, they don’t have any videos uploaded and they’re not putting themselves out there. You have no sense of who it even is, but a mean person hiding behind their computer screen. This shows a complete lack of self esteem in that person. They are putting down someone who has the courage to put themselves out there while they aren’t doing anything. It could be out of jealousy or just a bad attitude. This goes towards anonymous hatred on social media such as Tumblr. The best way to handle these type of questions are honestly ignoring them and not posting it. If it’s obvious that you came up with a long, elaborate answer on why you’re a great person, they’re not going to stop. Ignore and move on.

There are also haters on the Internet but it’s not anonymous. Even if someone’s name is shown, they might still say stuff they wouldn’t in person. It doesn’t hurt any less either. I would say that you should do the same as you would if this was an anonymous person. It’s just another person hiding behind their laptop. If the bullying gets bad, I would address the bully in person. Don’t fight back with mean comments, that’ll make things worse. Calmly tell them to stop and if they don’t, show that it doesn’t bother you. If it does bother you, tell an adult. You don’t deserve this and they do not deserve the right to use these social media websites.

Lastly, there are haters in person too. These are people that will say things to you in person, usually thinking it’s funny. If it comes unexpected, you might be left with nothing to say back. The answer is not yelling or saying something mean back. They’re probably jealous of you, so if they don’t stop after you ask them to, brush it off. They may have the confidence to say things to you in person, but there is still some that they are missing.

Really, everyone has them. If you can accept the fact that they are there, then you will be better off. Being in denial is not going to get you anywhere. Being aware and obsessing are two different things. Don’t waste your time trying to impress these people. They aren’t worth your time because in the end, haters are gonna hate. Also, don’t be a hater yourself. It’s not funny and it’s not cool. Watch yourself on the Internet. If you are a cyber bully, you should spend your free time doing something off the computer. Twitter and Facebook are not for you. Do things that will build up your confidence whether you are being bullied or are the bully. Self-confidence is so important; focus on things you love and are good at. I wish there was a way to get rid of all haters, but people have their own opinions and in reality, you can’t please everybody. Don’t try to please people that can’t be pleased. Be careful out there, and if you are dealing with haters now, I am sorry and I wish you good luck in handling them.

Thigh Gaps

Seriously, re-read the title. This bothers me a lot. I mean who tf, why tf, when tf, how tf. That’s all I can say about this topic. But let me elaborate a little bit now. If you’ve been living under a rock and don’t know what a thigh gap is, a thigh gap is the space between your legs when you stand with your feet together. Why this has become an obsession, I don’t know. A lot of girls don’t even have a thigh gap and that’s OKAY. I personally have one but hey, my genetics were good to me like that. It’s less likely, but I could have a huge fat stomach and maybe a little bit of a thigh gap. I could be unhealthy and unfit and still have one. Ok great, maybe I would like a flatter stomach but you don’t see me reblogging picture after picture of skinny girls in bikini tops! Honestly it’s okay if you don’t have one. Plenty of beautiful, fit women don’t have one either and plus, nobody even cares (let’s be real.) If you’re willing to put your body through misery to get a space between your thighs then you need to stop because you’re wasting your time and energy. Please please please don’t be someone who obsesses over this small thing because it’s unnecessary. Whoever came up with this theory that thigh gaps are essential needs to sit tf down and look at what he/she did to teenage girls. They should be ashamed. Ashamed I tell you.

I Don’t Have A Title For This But It Has A Good Lesson, I Guess

Lately my mom and I have been pretty consistent with exercise and eating healthy. My dad however has been consistent in the opposite direction. As some of you may know, I am planning on becoming a registered dietitian when I get older, but how do I expect to be in the field of nutrition if I can’t even get my own dad to eat healthy?! I’ve thought about calling a nutritionist but he would flake and yell at me for wasting the time and money. I threw away all of the junk food which ended in me getting grounded. I even thought of playing doctor and putting him on a diet plan myself. The problem is that he will not listen to me and he will just secretly binge on ice cream when I’m not home. Plus he has a tantrum whenever we eat salad for dinner so I can’t put that on the plan. So I can’t figure out how to change his diet but then I thought of something. Of course I can’t change his diet because he did not come to me to help him. It’s more like me coming into his life and changing things. That’s when it hit me. If I do become a dietitian, then people will come to me because they want to change. They are willing to eat healthier and exercise and look great. That will help my job because these people want my help. It’s way more difficult to change someone who doesn’t want to change. That’s a huge thing you will have to do if you’re trying to lose weight or get more fit. You do have to change and I can do research and tell you what to eat, but I seriously CAN NOT help you if you’re not willing to help yourself.

When YOLO Is Or Is Not Applicable

To be completely honest, I’m surprised that yolo is still a thing. What bothers me is some people go a little too far and take the expression literally. Here are my lists of when the expression is appropriate or not.

When it is ok: Before….
Sending that overly flirtatious text
Embarrassing yourself in public
Getting a weird haircut
Not doing your homework
Eating a cheat-meal
Not doing something perfectly
Trying a new Mexican restaurant
Wearing an outfit that that doesn’t match
Singing the wrong lyrics, it happens

When it is NOT ok: Before…
Jumping off a bridge
Doing illegal activity
Being an asshole
Failing an exam
Trying a new Mexican restaurant and then going to the gym, don’t be a dick
Racing on the highway
Microwaving fish sticks in the microwave at school
Attempting to put gas in your car with the engine still on

Those are my 2 lists of when yolo is appropriate and not appropriate. Don’t be stupid and yelling yolo doesn’t make it any less stupid. Also, just because something is on the Skye’s approval list doesn’t mean you need to shout yolo. In fact, don’t.

Friends & Pressures

So this is going to be a little bit of a rant. Obviously friends are great! But some friends really just are not meant for you and that’s O.K. Toxic friends are worse than not having any friends. A true friend is someone that makes you a better, happier person. People who are bad friends never are willing to listen to your problems and are only your friend at certain times, usually when no one else is around. To be completely honest, I’m aware that I am definitely not the perfect friend but I try to be. I am a toxic friend because I let my jealousy stand in the way of being happy for one of my friends and I would almost be happier if things didn’t work out perfectly. But I know there are plenty of times this person was not 100% there for me so maybe we both are bad friends. This doesn’t mean that we can’t be friends, but it could be better. On the same topic, maybe your friends are out doing something awesome and fun and your life just doesn’t compare to theirs. The pressure to be as exciting hits you and the fact that they might meet new people and leave you forever also hits you. Instead of feeling worthless, be happy and if they were a true friend, they would not leave you. Maybe pick up a new hobby for yourself! Don’t be a toxic friend and let your jealousy ruin a friendship and especially do not compare yourself to anyone else. If you think that you might be friends with a bad friend, address your problems early and def don’t ever start rumors and gossip! These type of people come all of the time and learning to deal with them will make you a much happier person. Sorry this post was really long, it’s definitely a topic that I think a lot about and thought I should bring up.